Do you enjoy travelling?
Do you enjoy exploring new places?
Did you know that exploring by travel helps you to gain a different perspective to life?
Ok, I do ask a lot of questions, so I have been told.
Here is WHY I am writing this blog…..
Did you know that your world and what you see from it, is determined by how much exploring you engage in? Going to new places brings a new lease of life. It helps you to expand your horizons. You will probably have heard this phrase before. And it is so true.
You see, before I began my journey with exploring new places, I could only see things from a small stagnant mindset. I was stuck in a bottomless rut. Depressed, dying inside and lacking adventures, my life revolved around fulfilling my adult responsibilities and spending my hard earned money buying stuff that I didn’t need. This shopping spiralled out of control. Although I didn’t get into serious debt, the money that was spent could have afforded many family holidays. This is ONE of my biggest regrets because there was a part of me who longed to travel with my three sons to create long lasting memories. That part of me wanted my sons to have what I didn’t get to do as a child. Travel is important to children because they learn new things that cannot be taught sitting in a classroom.
My shopping sprees became a vicious circle that never ended because online shopping is ever so convenient, tempting and attractive. Every time a parcel was due to be delivered, it felt like I was getting a Christmas present. “Retail therapy” is a massive scam. I am grateful that with the help of my therapist and my consistent hard work to resolve my money blocks and issues, I began to save cash in my pink cash box and stopped online shopping.
So my advice to you is:
STOP!
Yes!
STOP!
Stop shopping for stuff that you don’t need.
Retail therapy is NOT therapy. It merely masks your emotions, so that your forget about your pains and fears.
Instead start saving your hard earned money on your exploration adventures.
Use a system that helps you to save money for your exploration adventures and travels.
You can use cash to save up. This is highly recommended so that you SEE how much money you are saving.
Invest in a cash box and put a weekly amount in it for your exploration adventures.
I do this for family birthdays and other festivities and special occasions.
Or get an accountability partner to help you focus on your savings.
Or ask a friend to keep you on track.
There are many ways to save up for an exploration holiday/vacation. So explore what works for you. Your future self will thank you for it.
Let me share my recent travel story with you……
I wanted to go camping for a while and decided to write this onto my Bucket List. It “sat” on my Bucket List for a number of years. An opportunity came up when a close friend shared that he was planning on his next camping trip, in April this year. So I asked him if I could tag along. He was more than happy to have me as his camping campanion.
Our first camping adventure together turned out to be such a success, that we decided we would definitely do it again as a team.
One of the reasons WHY it is great for your personal growth to travel to new places and experience new things is: You will stumble upon challenges that will push you out of your comfort zone. You will have to use your problem solving skills to overcome these challenges.
James and I had challenges with setting up our brand NEW tent. Fortunately we both have a steady level of problem solving skills to help us set up this brand NEW tent with as less pain as possible. It took us around an hour to set up our NEW blue tent. Once it was set up, we brought our personal belongings from James’ car and gave them a home for the next four days.
Next I had challenges with cooking our two dinners on the Thursday and Friday evening. I had never ever cooked in a tent. Fortunately we had an Electric Hook Up on our camp site. So I could cook rice from my baby rice cooker and steam our dishes from my electric steamer. It is such a simple task at home because everything I need is in the kitchen. However, in a camping site, in a tent it becomes ten times more challenging. I burned so many calories and worked up an appetite with ALL the walking back and forth from our tent and the camp site’s sink, I was absolutely starving and exhausted. Our dinner turned out more than a success. My friend James demolished his food and praised me for my first camping cooking efforts. I was ten foot tall!
After washing up, tidying up and resetting, we sat by our camp fire and chatted for around two hours. Watching the logs burn and seeing the sun set was surreal. James and I rarely get to do this because we both live in and around a city. The tranquillity, calm and peace was much needed for both of us to do some soul searching.
I had several topics noted on phone to discuss, debate and talk about. This was the most enjoyable part of our camping adventure. We had each other’s full attention, with no one to see, no agendas to fulfill, no tasks to complete etc. We were fully focused on enjoying the beautiful countryside and sun set.
I forgot to bring my single quilt with me because my sleeping was from my eldest son Cory high school trip so it was light and flimsy. Too flimsy for camping. I decided NOT to buy a thicker sleeping bag because I could not affort to. I was cold on my first night. Fortunately, I brought my hot water bottle, a fleece and had my thick blue hoodie to keep me from dying of hyperthermia. I was awake until after 4am tossing and turning because my body needed weight from my regular quilt, which helps me to fall asleep.
There were a number of planes flying overhead throughout the night which kept me awake. Then at around 3.10am, birds started to chirp, sing and hoot. They were super hyper. The joys of camping!
I was absolutely exhausted when it was Friday morning and wanted to stay in our tent to sleep. However, I needed to buy a single quilt so that I could get a decent sleep. James needed a new inflatable mattress because his died when he was sleeping on it the night before.
After a late breakfast, we drove to Ayr, which was more than twenty miles from our campsite. To meet our immediate needs for the next three nights or else we would suffer serious consequences. I had not been to Ayr for many years and thoroughly enjoyed our day out. The sun was beaming down on us and I was happy to top up my Vitamin D. It was lunchtime for my growling stomach. So we had lunch at a cafe/restaurant. The chicken curry baked potato that I chose to indulge in was to die for. I had never ever tasted chicken curry quite like this one. The aroma was so different from what I was accustomed to from the numerous Chinese Take Aways that I had worked at.
After james bought his inflatable mattress and I picked up Sensitive toothpaste that I forgot to bring, I felt the heat from the warm sun. I told James I wanted ice cream and he gladly obliged by driving us to the seaside. We got our ice cream then sat by the beach to devour them. It was absolute bliss to watch people by go and enjoy each other’s company and our delicious ice cream.
Now it was time to head back to our campsite to cook dinner. Before we did, we stopped by the local Asda so that I could pick up a single quilt. I bought a can of squirty cream for my hot chocolate. Cooking dinner this time became easier because I had experience from the previous evening. Experience is everything when you want to do things easier and with less mental effort. Again James demolished his dinner and I did too because our day out in Ayr was fun and we burned a lot of calories.
I had my quilt to keep on warm tonight so I got around three hours of deep sleep. Ahhhh bliss! Again at around 3.10am the birds started their chirping, singing and hooting. It didn’t bother me so much now because I was getting accustomed to their deafening noise. There were no alarms to wake us up and get ready to go somewhere or see someone. Bliss! Absolute BLISS!
We had our late breakfast outside because the sun was beaming warmly. It would have been such a waste of our glorious sunhine to sit in our tent to eat breakfast. I spoiled myself and took my time, soaking up the countryside atmosphere. I mindfully listened to the birds chirping, the cows moo moo moo-ing, the sheep baa baa baa-ing. I washed up and got ready to explore with James.
Next James drove us along narrow and bendy country roads, some were single track, to get to the middle of nowhere. The journey took what felt like forever because I get tense and anxious with these country roads. When we finally arrived at our breathtaking destination the pain was well worth it. We were here for a few hours, enjoying the blue sky, white clouds and postcard scenery.
It was lunch first, to satisfy my lunchtime hunger. Then we went exploring at a snail pace to soak up the eye catching and picturesque beauty. I was in awe and speechless at the beautiful sight before my eyes. Imagine cliffs, sea and rocks on a sunny day with blue sky and very little clouds. I breathed in the fresh air. Soaked up the glorious scenery and then, and only then took some photos and videos.
There are many stunning, beautiful and breathtaking sights in Scotland. You got to go and explore to find them. Here I was with James, my favourite friend, enjoying our first camping adventure together and exploring the beauty of Scotland. We are ever so fortunate to be only a few hours drive from picturesque beauty before our eyes. Away from the hustle and bustle of city life. No deafening sirens blaring in the distance. No rushing about to get somewhere or to see someone.
The weather on this particular day was definitley on our side. Not too cold. Not too hot. It was just right (like Goldilocks says) for walking, exploring and soaking up the fresh air and stunning sights.
James and I walked slowly around the site and chatting happily to each other. We headed to the obsolete lighthouse to see its handsome sights. I was meserised by its size. It is not every day I get to stand in front of a lighthouse. James showed me the lighthouse machinery and it was like being at school getting a history lesson. What fun!
Along our path to and from the lighthouse, we could see masses of heather and it was mesmerising to see so much of it growing around our feet. Then we saw some thistle, the National Flower of Scotland. The spiky thorns looked fiesty, fierce and deadly. You do not want to be attacked by them.
It felt like walking a 10k whilst I was here with James. Exploring every inch of this secluded spot, not missing anything of significance. Ahhhhhh I felt fifty times richer than before I arrived at this secluded spot with James. The richness of being mindful and enjoying nature. Time didn’t matter here. We were as slow as snails and we loved being in the moment. This is so opposite to what we endure with our city lives each day.
When we finally arrived at our dinner destination, it was a restaurant converted from a sound old house. I was more than impressed! Although there were few diners inside, we thoroughly enjoyed our food and the atmosphere. It was quiet, relaxing and peaceful. Ideal for your first low key camping adventure. I eat out for a maximum of three time a month when I am back at home, so this was like living like a queen! No preparing food, cooking it and then washing up. I loveeeee getting spoiled like this and would love more of it!
This was our third night at our campsite and it still felt surreal for me to be there. No mum duties, no Auntie Kit duties, no duties of any sort. I fully focused on filling my own cup and I FELT a tremendous sense of gratitude. This was the first time that I felt no guilt whatsoever, going on a weekend break. Previously, I would have my youngest son taken care of by my big brother. I felt the mum guilt eating me up. I pushed it to the back of my mind and enjoyed myself.
This time, there were no mum guilt whatsoever because Calvin was sixteen years old and is considered an adult in Scotland so I could legally leave him at home on his own. This was a new experience for me which overwhelmed me to some extent. I embraced it and put my blinkers on to enjoy the time with James and at our camp site.
On the note of our camp site, it was such a pleasant experience. The owners kept the facilities spotless. We had a kettle to boil as much water as we wanted. I used it to boil some water for my hot water bottle at night and it needed fresh hot water once the hot water cooled down. So I was grateful for it. Our pitch was closest to the toilets, shower, washing up sinks, kettle and bins. The owner came to chat to us each evening when we were sat at our camp fire. He told us we would get a discount the next time we came back. How kind of him!
Again we lit our camp fire when we got back from dinner. It takes around two hours to burn ALL of our logs. Our regular companions joined us for our debate, discussions and chatting. But their input could not be understood by James or I.
Our last full day of camping started slower because I tossed and turned most of the night. With a lack of even a few hours of sound sleep, my body was exhausted. I could not start my day until I had a nap, after getting out of the tent a few times during the night to visit the toilet. I sooooo missed my super kingsize bed by now. However, I was determined to make the most of my last full day.
I knew that camping would mean you will definitely NOT get a deep sleep because you are out of your comforts at home. It has been a tremendous experience to soak up nature and wake up every morning to birds, cows, sheep and horses, grass, trees and the sky directly above your head. What’s not to enjoy and love about this setting?
Travelling puts you out of your comfort zone so you definitely expand, grow and experience life from a new environment. It puts you on high alert because you are in new surroundings. Instead of operating on auto pilot when you are at home and in familar surroundings, your senses are heightened. New surroundings are necessary for your mind and body to enhance your life. Staying in the same surroundings day in day out, for three hundred and sixty five days a year is: tedious, boring, mundane, monotonous, dull, repetitive etc etc. You get my message?
Human feeling beings need variety and your surroundings are important to your body, mind and soul. Getting into new environments regularly helps you to stay: alert, aware, mindful, conscious, alive, creative, energetic, positive, active etc etc. This helps you to maintain a healthy balance for your emotional, mental and physical health. Why is this important?
I had a minor car accident back in Summer 2014, that left me with what was severe whiplash pain in my neck and shoulders. I need months of physiotherapy to help me to recover. I had never ever experienced whiplash pain before this incident. I was fortunate and I am grateful that I made a full recovery. However the pain came back with a vengence at the end of March this year.
I went back and forth to my doctor to get some form of pain relief, without any success. I am waiting for NHS physiotherapy. After a long weekend surrounded by nature, my whiplash pain disappeared. I felt alive and uplifted. No need to pain any form of pain relief! How fascinating is this?
What did I do to get rid of this whiplash pain? I did not take any form of pain relief whilst I was on my first camping adventure. My body reacts poorly to Western painkillers so I stayed away from them. Constipation is one of the serious consequences. Instead I was doing physiotherapy exercises given to me when I attended appointments in 2014 and 2015.
Whilst I was at the campsite and exploring in nature, I noticed that my whiplash pain was no longer present. I mentioned this to my dear friend and camping buddy James. He was delighted for me. I was shocked and surprised by it. I remembered when the pain came back at the end of March this year, I went to my local park, which is only TWO minutes walk from home, for my daily walks. One particular day I stood by the stream and stopped there. Soaking up the noise of the water running along the stream, listening to the birds chirp and sing, breathing in the fresh air and being in a mindful state. This was the best cure for the whiplash pain. No need to take conventional medication which is full of chemicals.
It is Day Six since I got back home from my first camping adventure in Dumfries and Galloway of Scotland. The recent whiplash has been “cured” as I have not experienced any whiplash pain. Woo Hoo! Doctors are doctors of medicine. Not of alternative methods to “cure” your aches, pains and illnesses. They will never prescribe natural or alternative methods to “cure” or relieve your aches, pains and illnesses.
Whilst living in a city has many benefits, surrounding yourself in nature has many benefits too. Your body will thank you for it.
Back to our last full day……….
Again we had breakfast outside, next to our camp fire because it was dry and the sun was beaming down on us. Never wanting to waste the glorious Scottish sunshine because we don’t get enought of it. I don’t get to eat breakfast outside when I am at home because I live in a flat/apartment and there is no table with chairs outside to sit and eat. This was absolute bliss!
James drove us to the biggest Garden Centre I had ever been to after our slow and mindful start to our last full day at our camp site. Again we encountered narrow country roads and I was getting more comfortable with them now.
The palm trees and vast space were out of this world. You got to see it for yourself. Check it out here:
https://www.visitscotland.com/info/see-do/logan-botanic-garden-p249751
The variety of plants and flowers had me thinking I was travelling across the world. There is a big fish pond where the gold fish was bigger than my feet! We sat there admiring the scenery after lunch and ice cream. I was in awe and speechless. It is rather unusual for me to be speechless because I love to talk! Haha
The downside of visiting this Garden Centre in June was my Hayfever allergy. My eyes were ever so itchy and uncomfortable. Or else we would have stayed longer and explored every nook and cranny. Maybe I could ask James to go back after Hayfever season is over.
What I saw and observed during our visit was breathtaking and definitely worth going back. A day out activity would be fantastic because it is a few hours drive from our city of residence. The exotic plants and flowers would be a welcome sight because you won’t get to see them in our city.
After we left this vast space, we drove for miles and miles because we had the time to. Our dinner destination was Portpatrick with a tiny wee beach. It was exceptionally quiet, probably because it was the Jubilee Weekend and holiday season was starting. We sat in James’ car to admire the beach with singing and music in the background. It felt surreal to see so much nature on this Jubilee Weekend. Also because I had no tasks to complete. Filling my own cup and fully focusing on me is and was uncomfortabel because I have been trained by my mum to care take things and other people.
So to take care of myself ALL DAY for FOUR whole days was a new experience. An experience that had no mum guilt whatsoever. James and I had endless topics to chat about, because I had noted them ALL onto my phone. A total of twenty three. Now and again James shared his knowledge of places we were passing. The weekend was like being back at school.
We walked past a few restaurants when dinner time arrived. It was easy to decide which one to choose. The mussels on the menu at The Waterfront Hotel and Bistro was eye catching. When it was finally delivered to our table, I wished it was served with rice. The sauce reminded me of the chicken curry baked potato I had for lunch with James in Ayr on Friday. I knew I wanted rice when I went back to our camp site. I wanted the recipe to the sauce in my mussels.
I made rice shortly after we got back to our camp site because I was still hungry. No rice, no life! One last camp fire chat with James before we went to bed. We discussed the highlights of our first camping adventure together and decided that we would definitely go back.
As our time together was coming to an end, I cherished the entire journey and experience. I was fortunate that we didn’t do the wild camping because that would have been ten times more challenging. Not ideal for me, for my first camping adventure. I was told that I was going “Glamping” and not camping. Having the toilets and shower at our camp site was an absolute bonus because we got to meet our needs.
This dream came true for me because I was assertive and asked for what I wanted. I am grateful that James was more than happy to have me as his camping buddy. He was the best host, friend and travel companion one could ever ask for. He was such a gentleman and the best driver ever. He knew from my body language that I was uncomfortable and anxious during our travels on those narrow and bendy country roads. So he slowed down to accommodate me.
Although there were many discomforts from this first ever camping adventure, I gained a tonne of experiences and learned new skills. I also learned new things about myself. I know what is involved in setting up a tent. I may not be able to assemble by myself, yet I have seen first hand what you do. Cooking whilst you are camping seemed difficult and it was. Then it got easier because I gained experience. Life skills like these can only be gained when you step out of your comfort zone and expose yourself to the discomforts. As my therapist Ann said to me during early sessions with her last year: “There is comfort in the discomfort”. How true!!!
The friendship between James and I grew and was nurtured during this enjoyable adventure. We both gained a tonne of wealth from it. The endless topics we had helped us to understand each other from a deeper level. The trust we built is solid and sound. I came home on the Monday afternoon feeling like I was floating on a cloud. I felt as light as a feather. This experience was much needed after two years of no travel due to the pandemic.
I would have missed all of these treasures if I had not asked James to join him. He would have been on his own and no topics to chat about. It has been a win win for both of us in many ways. We will be long term friends because of this nurturing experience.
There has been a gentle voice guiding me onto a new journey with my career goals since I came back home. Prior to this I felt lost and stagnant due to the pandemic, lockdowns and the many uncertainties that came with it all. This is what travelling to new places can do for your being. You will have left some excess baggage at your holiday destination. You will have a lighter load to come home to.
I have been ten times more alert and alive since coming back to Glasgow, my city of residence. My mental, emotional and physical state has shifted immensely. No longer lost or stagnant.
To conclude:
Your state shifts after you come back home from travelling to a new place. Your mind has been stimulated. Your thoughts and emotions also shifts. You are giving birth to a new life. You will have: grown, expanded and broadened your horizons. This is wealth and health combined.
So as Summer is upon you, unless you live Down Under, plan an adventure to a new place and you will feel richer when you come back from it. Go on! Get exploring and travel to a new place!
From a richer and healthier 50 year old Scottish Chinese Lassie