Dear big brother
I am so sorry for keeping you waiting for my update. I have had such a productive year so far and I feel so fucking proud of all of my achievements this year!
At the beginning of the year, I started working with my website designer Stuart whom I got a recommendation from Facebook. He has helped me to create a logo for my business Facebook page. I have been consistently posting on the page as I want to build up my life coaching business, one step at a time. The logo took around three months to complete. It was many emails back and forth with Stuart. My patience was pushed to it’s limits! Hehe
As usual January and February are always a drag for us due to the long winter nights. March was so much welcomed. We have had a mild winter so we have been ever so fortunate.
In May I attended my third Toastmasters District 71 Conference. This was my best yet. why? I was much more comfortable talking to fellow Toastmasters who were from outside of my home club. I volunteered to step onto the big stage, talking about the benefits I have reaped from joining Toastmasters. The hundreds of faces staring back at me didn’t phase me one bit. I was at home on that big stage because I love being there and I feel alive whenever I speak in front of an audience. I got to hold a big black microphone which was thrilling!
June flew by and Calvin received his second high school award. Here it is! I know you are proud of Calvin and smiling your big handsome smile saying “That’s my smartypants nephew Calvin alright!” Hehe
July and August was holiday fun time for Calvin, Vincent, Charles (Vincent’s nephew) and myself. Our flight was delayed on the tarmac at Glasgow Airport for an hour and a half. It was torture sitting on my ass without the freedom to go to take a piss! ARRRRGGGHHHH!
The great news this year was we had Emirates luxurious and spacious A380 come to Glasgow so we were in heaven with more space and more luxury. Calvin and I were happier than Larry!
Our two weeks stay in Hong Kong was full of challenges. From the ongoing protests due to the now scrapped Extradition Bill to me getting inflammation of the bowels. I was left feeling absolutely exhausted and was in bed recovering for four days. Thankfully Vincent was very attentive to taking care of me. He was left with doing all the running around to get me more digestible food from his mum’s and buying me the necessities. We managed to take Calvin and Charles to my inner child’s favourite place, Ocean Park for a day of fun in the intense heat. It was physically demanding and challenging. I thoroughly enjoyed our cable car ride as always. The aerial view is simply the best!
I attended a Toastmasters meeting in Admiralty with the help of Vincent’s navigation. I would have struggled to find my way there without Vincent’s help. He’s my rock!
Vincent’s younger brother Ah Cheung’s wedding was a massive affair. It was exhausting being surrounded by his big family. I felt so claustrophobic when we were at his mum’s for the Chinese rituals which was tiresome and long winded.
The wedding reception was seventeen tables big, overlooking Victoria Harbour. The food was delicious when it was finally served almost after 9pm. I was about to die from starvation! It was torture!
Flying to Sydney was a huge struggle due to the fears from the protests in Hong Kong. We got stuck in traffic heading to the airport from Vincent’s mum’s. Calvin was exceptionally scared and this put more stress onto me.
This has been a regular scene in Hong Kong since the protests began in June. I was glad to leave for Sydney when we did. Then something happened that shocked Hong Kong and it still shocks me. On the night of Sunday 21st July, the night we flew to Sydney, a group of men wearing white t-shirts holding sticks and batons, randomly attacked passengers in the Yuen Long MTR. When I settled in Sydney and saw this incident on the news, I was hurt and in intense pain for the Hong Kong people.
Our three weeks in Sydney was totally worth all the pain and fear. I achieved many goals and overcame many hurdles. Vincent was challenged by me about his exceptionally poor time management and I brought this up during a much needed family meeting. We had challenges with keeping Charles within the boundaries that was functional and healthy for all of us. He is such a super hyper extrovert, completely different to Calvin. I had no issues with getting along with Charles. Vincent struggled because he doesn’t have kids and had challenges bonding with Charles.
We had sunshine almost everyday in Sydney which meant one thing and one thing only. It was beach weather!
McDonald’s by the beach!
I finally climbed the Sydney Harbour Bridge with Calvin and Charles. Vincent was too scared to do it! Chicken! Would you climb it with me?
Do you feel my happiness in this priceless photo? The safety procedures and equipment was well thought of due to the potential dangers of dropping anything onto the road below the bridge. We were not allowed to bring any personal belongings with us. My glassed were attached to my boiler suit with a sturdy strap. We were supplied with handkerchiefs attached to our boiler suits so they would not drop down onto the road. On our waist, we had a fleece attached to our boiler suit. It felt heavy and I looked like a worker cleaning windows high up in the sky! Haha
I had such a breathtaking time climbing the iconic bridge which left me in awe. The catwalk at the beginning was tight and claustrophobic for me. This was the most uncomfortable part of the climb. As soon as we were climbing up the steps going onto the bridge, it became so much easier.
It was nothing like hiking or going for a walk outdoors. It was most leisurely and slow. We stopped regularly to soak in the sun and sights. We got information from our guide about the specific history of each sight around the harbour. It was like a history lesson, only up high on the bridge.
Looking down onto the harbour and seeing the cruise ship being pulled out by a tiny boat was out of this world. We stood for around twenty minutes soaking up the sights when we reached the summit of the bridge.
We stopped three times to have our photos taken by our female guide who was friendly and chatty. We got the bonus of seeing the sun set because we were the last afternoon climbers. The sun disappeared at the blink of an eye and left me totally speechless. That’s not often! Haha
I saw Luna Park lit up in it’s glory when the sun set and it was stunning, beautiful and attractive. Before our descent, we stood for around ten to fifteen minutes to admire the early night sky. Looking down during the entire climb was exciting. I thought it would be scary and frightening to look down whilst climbing the bridge. How deceiving were my thoughts!
The descent was ten times faster than our climb because we didn’t stop. I was buzzing when we got our feet back onto the ground. I was super hyper and full of energy. I wanted to scream to the world that I had finally climbed Sydney Harbour Bridge to it’s summit! When I told the locals that I had climbed the Harbour Bridge, they said I was crazy! My perspective on life has shifted so much since I climbed the Harbour Bridge and I finally ticked it off my bucket list! Woo Hoo! Well done me!
The rest of our stay in Sydney was fun, enjoyable and pleasant. I delivered a Toastmasters speech at Hurtsville. Vincent helped me to create slides and he operated my slides for me on the night because my clicker failed to work.
Vincent went back to work on the last Tuesday of our holiday. I took the boys to have lunch with him on Tuesday. It was great bonding time. Vincent took the last Thursday off to spend more time with us. We headed to Coogee Beach with the boys because that’s where they wanted to go. Calvin loves to dig sand at the beach whilst Charles does anything to keep himself entertained.
Our last Friday in Sydney was memorable for me because I got to meet Victoria, who is one of the only females at Vincent’s work. She was ever so chatty I could barely get a word in! Oh dear! I took Charles to Hyde Park for a walk before we went back to our Airbnb. It took me less time than I thought to pack and I was surprised and shocked. We were almost at our limit for 60kg allowance and our carry on were also at their limit. We had bought lots of gifts and it drained our allowance. This is the most challenging part of packing.
I took the boys to Chinatown’s night market before we flew back to Hong Kong to drop Charles back home. Vincent met us at Chinatown. We had lots of fun and it was sweet memories we created that will be with me forever. I got an email from Emirates informing me of a possible upgrade to Business Class. When Calvin heard of this, he was super hyper and asked his Papa for an upgrade because it was a dream of his to fly Business Class with Emirates.
With a bit of coxing and persuading, Calvin got what he wanted and Vincent paid for our upgrade from Dubai to Glasgow. I was shocked and surprised that Vincent paid over £900 for our Business Class upgrade! Calvin watched YouTube videos of Emirates Business Class flights almost the entire night.
Flying back to Hong Kong had it’s challenges because Charles and Vincent were both dilly dallying. Calvin and I were more than eager to get to the airport because we had fears of the scheduled airport sit in protests which heightened my emotions. I snapped at Vincent for having no sense of urgency to get to the airport. He just ignored me! So typical of him and his laid back attitude!
Our fair well was emotional as it always is. Boo! Calvin was more than ready to fly home and was super excited about his Business Class experience. The flight from Sydney to Hong Kong was challenging because Charles was noisy and chatty at the beginning until Calvin told him to be quiet and leave him alone. We were greeted with a flood of young people at Hong Kong Airport arrivals who were protesting when we landed. It was overwhelming and I felt claustrophobic!
I have never ever seen so many people at Hong Kong Airport. It was such a shock! At this point I was more than ready to fly home and I wished we could have boarded our flight back to Glasgow from here, after what I witnessed.
We stayed the night at my mother in law’s. Tina joined us at the airport and made sure we got our luggage kept overnight at airport. She paid for our light meal before we parted ways. Calvin and I headed for Hong Kong in the Express train. Rebecca was there to pick us up and take us to her mum’s. Mother in law was waiting for us to settle into her apartment. We settled for sleep after taking a shower. I woke up during the night to pee and woke up feeling hungry around 8am. We had breakfast with mother in law then we waited for lunch. This Sunday felt like a long day because I was more than ready to fly home.
After dinner with Vincent’s family at a nearby restaurant, we were escorted to the airport by Tina and Charles. Charles was attached to Calvin after their three weeks together in Sydney. When we got to the airport, the boys were hungry again. We had some snacks in an upstairs restaurant.
It was time to head to departures and bide our fair wells. I got a hug from Charles and Tina after asking for it and it was fun to get it! Hehe
Finally, after five weeks of living out of our suitcases, we were flying home and I felt an immediate sense of calm and relief. The uncertainties from the ongoing protests in Hong Kong instantly disappeared and I was happier.
I was shocked to see our Hong Kong to Dubai flight was less than half full. It could have been affected by the protests in Hong Kong. I got a sound three hours sleep on this flight when I settled in the row of seats in front of us because the row was empty. Calvin slept for around four hours.
Our Business Class flight was out of this world. The entire experience had Calvin grinning from ear to ear.
I got to stretch my legs out and lie flat to sleep which was much needed to rest my exhausted body. The humongous screen was amazing. The mini bar we had got topped up with drinks. Calvin was greeted “Sir” even at his tender age! I was greeted “Madam”. What a massive difference Business Class makes. Can you imagine what First Class would have been like for Calvin? We were both spoiled to no end. We got socks, eye masks, toothpaste, toothbrush, a mattress for our seats, unlimited drinks at the bar, snacks at the bar, both our meals were satisfying and more attractive than I could ever imagine. Only negative was our breakfast had no protein which was a huge disappointment because we got our protein in Economy. Calvin took drinks home from the mini bar and the tiny jar of jam from breakfast.
I slept for around three hours and Calvin slept for around the same time. It felt like a short flight because I didn’t have enough time to watch another movie. I could certainly fly from Dubai to Sydney in Business Class because I had no Restless Leg Syndrome on this flight. No surprises there eh!
I was so relieved to finally get back home and settle back into my Glasgow routine. However, I feel I am still catching up. I feel a huge part of me is still in Sydney soaking up the glorious sun because our weather this week has been cold and dull.
Our dad is in hospital. He had gall stones and had an operation today. I told mum by phone on Monday that I would NOT visit dad. Mum was alright about it. Last night mum called me and begged me to visit dad in hospital. I was full of anger and rage. I let out many years of pain, anger, resentment and put up a boundary with mum. I told her I would NOT visit dad because he had abused me enough. I told mum that I had been seeing a psychiatrist and I was in no fit state to see dad and be abused by him further. I told mum it was karma coming to bite dad because of how he treated you and me when we were in hospital. Mum agreed and let go of the issue.
How would you feel about visiting dad if you were still here with us? How would you feel about not obliging to our family obligations? How would you feel to have a sick dad who doesn’t deserve your time and effort yet he is still our dad? Could you forgive dad and let go of your pain and visit dad in hospital? I would support you no matter what decision you make because I got your back and will always support you!