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We all want to feel important and I see that this has created so much ignorance in this beautiful world.

As a parent to three sons, I am very aware of what I am passing on to them from my journey with personal development.

I want to feel important as much as anyone else yet that comes at a cost. I see from my daily travels, how selfish, self centred, self absorbed and narcissistic we have become.

I see people from all age groups nowadays being so absent minded and oblivious as to what is happening around them to the extent where:

  1. They put their own lives and the lives of others at risk when they are using their mobile phones whilst driving or crossing the road
  2. They are crossing the road as a car is approaching and just yards in front of them, creating danger for the driver and self
  3. They are parking their car with all four tyres on the pavement as they collect their children from school or park on the corner and putting the lives of other road users at risk
  4. They are causing more accidents than before the digital age as they are being distracted from their mobile devices
  5. They are walking with their heads down whilst using their mobile phones in public
  6. They are neglecting their children as they have a distraction with their mobile devices which becomes an addiction
  7. Parents are teaching their children that they are the most important people in the world and these children become selfish, self centred, self absorbed and narcissistic

We do not listen to others with the intent to understand because we were never taught to from our main caregivers. We listen with the intent to form a reply and this creates a huge distance between the listener and speaker. Relationships are suffering the inevitable heartache of a breakup due to this vital fact. Friendships end due to this reason too. I ended a close friendship last year due to this as I felt I was not being listened to with the intent to be understood and I felt so much pain.

Then there are couples who go out together to bond yet they are so attached to their mobile phones that their date is with their phones and not their partner.

I also see this happening with friends who meet up in restaurants for a meal. I saw a group of four young people (two girls and two boys) in a Chinese restaurant at lunchtime during Christmas, whilst I was with my youngest son checking out this new place for our first time. The group of four had their heads down, fingers on their phones and I saw them quite engrossed. One of the girls had her head down, engrossed on her phone for the duration of our meal. I was rather shocked!  What is the purpose of meeting up for a meal when none of us talk to each other face to face?

I had such a close friend who gave her mobile phone more attention than she gave me which left me feeling undervalued and hurt. She also created much drama with her sister, boyfriend or friend the weekend before us girls were due to meet and she would rant, rave, moan and groan about the drama that she created as she put herself on the spotlight. Yawn! No need to say, she is no longer my close friend.

Children are narcissistic by nature so they always want to feel important and special. Give a child a new toy and they shall show it off to their little friends as the new toy makes them feel important. Adults are exactly the same whenever they have a new “toy” to show off as gadgets are consuming our daily lives. As soon as adults hear about the latest gadget that is due to launch, they shall be willing to sacrifice a good part of their day in order to obtain this new gadget in order to make them feel important as they have something that not everyone has, yet!

I see adults at Calvin’s school who get into road rage with other parents over who has the right of way when they are driving home after picking up their little angels. This has become a huge concern for both adults and children as parents and possibly grandparents are parking illegally just so that they do not need to walk any further than they want to because they have a car. I have seen cars parked with all four wheels on the pavement, cars parked on the corner of a road, cars parked at someone’s driveway blocking the home owner’s entrance or exit. I have seen adults argue over who has the right of way at a junction to the extent where they are using foul language. The school has sent letters out to all parents of their pupils yet it just seems to fall on death’s ears. The police has been called in to patrol the school around home time and I feel this is a total waste of our taxpayers money.  What are we teaching our children? What will our children learn from the poor behaviour of the adults that they all look up to for guidance?

We in general seem to have neglected the importance of what truly matters to us human beings. What happened to asking about how one’s day is going? What happened to asking about how a dear friend is getting on? What happened to asking about how we are doing with life? What happened to the human connections?

We seem to be more connected with social media and our devices than with our loved ones, friends and family. How sad are we becoming as a human feeling being?

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